The problems this site is about
Most couples do not drift because something went wrong. They drift because nothing did. There is no argument to point at and no date it started — just a slow reduction in the number of times a day either person tries. The mechanism is accumulated inattention, and it is hard to notice from inside because none of the individual instances are worth mentioning.
The rule every page here is written under
Every explainer ends in a script or a ritual, not a category.
The single most common complaint across the couples-app category is that a quiz produces a result and then nothing happens — you are told you are a type and handed a label with no instruction attached. Paired, Lasting and Relish all attract it.
Knowing that your partner values a certain kind of attention does not tell you what to say at 9pm on a Tuesday when the room has gone quiet. If a page here cannot end with something you could do this evening, it does not go up.
What this site will not repeat
The 94 percent divorce-prediction statistic. Heyman & Slep (2001), in the Journal of Marriage and Family, argue the accuracy figures came from models fitted and evaluated on the same sample without cross-validation — which measures fit rather than prediction. The number is everywhere. It is not going here.
That love languages are established. Impett, Park & Muise (2024), in Current Directions in Psychological Science, examined the framework's three core assumptions and found none well supported.
That an app is therapy. It is not, and the distinction has real consequences. A relationship in crisis needs a licensed couples therapist.
Nearvo. “The problems this site is about.” Baker Ventures LLC, September 6, 2026. https://nearvo.bakerventuresstudio.com/why/